I'm going to be 25 in two months, yes you heard it, the big 25. I'm like almost halfway through my life on this earth. And yes, I'm still studying if you're wondering. A typical asian culture would be to have judging thoughts if not looks when someone tells you that. I hate this type of cultural values. I despise it with every single cell in my body. I understand the whole idea of earning your own moolah and being independent but what I don't understand is the fact that we're all, I mean all, rushing in being an "adult".
What do I mean by being an adult? Picture this
You are stuck in your work desk or if you're lucky, a room with a view of the next white-washed building, working in a 9 to 6 job on a permanent basis. The only thing you look forward to at times is the lunch break, the idea of getting out of that darned office and yes, the weekend, the 2 glorious days of the week.
Now you're walking to your car in the parking lot, you realize that you have been taking the same old route for awhile now but the thought of the impeding sea of cars between your office and your house causes a depressive sigh which drives out any other thoughts.
You're in your car, as you listen to the same old tunes on the stereo, cursing the thought of having to wade through this every single day, wishing that you're house was a little nearer or even the thought of having a driver to fetch you home.
You reach home, greeted by the familiar view and scent of the compound, giving a sigh of relief thinking, "I'm finally home".
You turn on your computer, browse through some personal emails, replying to some messages, or even watch your favourite shows on the tele. You realize that it's late and you'd not want to wake up late for work tomorrow and decide that its bedtime.
You're lying on your bed, feeling exhausted, dreading the thought of waking up the next morning to be greeted by the traffic in the morning. All of a sudden, you realize that your not really living, you're merely a mechanism performing its daily processes. You give a small pathetic laugh about it, thinking, " Its all just a process huh? " and proceed to fall asleep.
Think.
Where did all your youthful passion go to?
What are you chasing in life?
Have I become to comfortable and contempt with life the way it is now?
There's definitely more to this in this life right?
The answer? To sum it all up, apart from your marriage or a change of vehicles or houses, nothing is going to change. Nothing. Depressing isn't it? Now you must be thinking, I'm not going to let my children go through this whole process, I'm going to make them travel the world! Its a good thought, but it's not the root of the problem. The problem is culture itself. The actions and behaviours which are considered a social norm.
How do we change this you say?
You can't change what people want to do with their lives but you can change yours. The world's big and there's definitely more out there.
Live life, don't make it a process.
Don't regret your decisions, learn from your mistakes, make it a point in your life to go heads on into everything, you'd probably leave a carnage of mistakes but as long its not illegal or inflicts pain on others, who gives a shit?
Don't pull people down, don't trample down on their dreams, don't judge others as its God's will for him or her to be in that place in time, don't be a stupid old fool who laughs at other peoples' lack of "achievements" as "achievements" are nothing but empty trophies waiting to be turned into dust and disappear into nothingness. Death overlooks any achievements, it does not give any merit to it.
Be good, be merry, be optimistic. Go for a mission trip in the secluded peaks of the Himalayas, go for a humanitarian effort in the African countries, plan a drive down to the next country and bring a camera and of course a tripod if you're alone. Being attached is good, but being single is a blessing! Appreciate that stage! :)
2 comments:
WELL SAID! :)
hehe :)
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